Celebrate The Occasions

, I had made an appointment to look at, and try on, wedding dresses. I showed up with my mother, my daughter, one of my bridesmaids, and my fiancé (whom was dropping me off). All of whom were witnesses to how poorly i was spoken to by the woman in the shop. As I was filling out the short form they give to brides, my daughter and bridesmaid started looking through dresses. Without skipping a beat the lady in the store quickly glanced at me and told them to look in the "bigger" sizes. Now, mind you i am average size. Between a 12 and a 14, so yes, i know my dress size will be a bit larger. Still no reason to emphasize BIGGER SIZES when speaking of a person standing right there. As i was looking through the racks of dresses the lady working kept referring to my size. She was stating that because of my size i would be limited to what i could choose in her store, or elsewhere. All she was focused on was MY SIZE!! I tried on a dress, walked out and she grabbed the back of the dress trying to squeeze my top into it. Mind you, i have a large chest and i am aware of alterations that will need to be made. However, spouting off that the zipper needs to be removed and a lace up put in place to accomodate bigger sizes. When i became visibly upset she raised her voice from across the room and said,"If it makes you feel any better we have helped women much larger than you help find their dream dress..." No. No,it does not help me feel better. Wedding dress shopping is something that should be special, fun, and create happy memories. It should not be full of anxiety, comments about weight, full of reminders about limitations, and being constantly reminded about your "size". Its sad because she does not know the struggles of each person who walks through the door, or if they have lost weight and are proud of that, or have gained weight for medical/emotional or any other reason. Not once was i asked a single question about my upcoming wedding. But the comments about size just kept coming. My aunt showed up as i walked out in tears and she talked to the lady in the store who admittedly said she speaks to all her brides that way, and she refused to apologize for being so rude. This saddens me because I have received nothing but amazing customer service from other employees, and the owner, when shopping for dresses for my daughter. I won't be returning, nor will i refer anyone here. No one should feel humiliated, embarrassed, or looked down on for being a human being with curves that doesn't fit societies view of perfection.